# Mend: Self Care For Breakups — user reviews > 50 indexed App Store user reviews of Mend by Mend Tech, Inc., rated 4.20/5 from 774 ratings. - Source: https://appshunter.io/ios/app/mend-self-care-for-breakups/id1074475992/reviews - App overview in markdown: https://appshunter.io/ios/app/mend-self-care-for-breakups/id1074475992.md - Rating breakdown: 5★ 551 · 4★ 54 · 3★ 39 · 2★ 33 · 1★ 97 ## What do users think of Mend? Overall sentiment: positive **Pros** - 👍 Helpful for heartbreak recovery - 🙌 Provides comfort and accountability - 🤗 Soothing and supportive - 💪 Empowering and motivating - 🌱 Aids in personal growth and self-care **Cons** - 💰 Expensive subscription model - 🚫 Limited accessibility for lower-income users - 🤔 Irrelevant or generic content at times - 🐛 Technical issues like crashes and glitches - 📚 Lack of continuity and organization in content **Commonly reported bugs** - Inconsistent or misleading content references - Journal entries being lost or deleted - Repeated prompts for completed daily activities - Compatibility issues on older devices **Most requested features** - Ability to favorite or save specific content - More personalized and customizable experience - Offline access to journal entries - Improved data tracking and progress visualization - More inclusive and gender-neutral approach ## Newest reviews (11 of 50) ### 4/5 — easy to use and really works but not enough self care *2021-11-20, version 4.0.1* I just resumed my subscription for a second break up. I found mend a few years ago when I was truely heart broken when I broke up with the man Who was my soul mate. I really do attribute mend and the journals to helping me get back on the horse and in another healthier relationship just 4 months after. I honestly don’t think I would have said yes to him and I would have missed so much love. So here I am, break up again. Different reason different circumstances and mend is bringing new and different things out in me. The only thing that really irks me about the app is how few “self care” choices there are. I wish there was a “fill in the blank option” I would love to keep track of my self care but there what they have doesn’t fit me and what I do. Like spa. Spa should totally be an option. ### 3/5 — Needs some honeing *2021-02-24, version 4.0.1* I’ve been using the app for about two months now and I didn’t have a chance to use it before the major update but a few nitpicky items: -I hate the pictures of faces when it asks how you are feeling. They are confusing, poorly drawn and don’t display enough emotions to convey how someone is feeling that that -what is the purpose of putting in how we feel/write in our journal/self care, all of these check ins when they don’t consolidate the data or do ANYTHING WITH IT to show our progress? All we see is a circle that’s half full? Why not make it impactful for us to see our progress in visuals? Something? -after finishing the checklist, there’s VERY few articles to read, it was only useful the first day. It’s almost a cop out, making it seem like we are getting more for what we paid, when we don’t. Currently this app is not worth the $60 and definitely not worth continuing on using unless these updates are made. ### 3/5 — Love the concept, needs work. *2020-10-05, version 3.1.6* I found the first 12-15 days SO tremendously helpful. The trainings were relevant, the journaling prompts gave me a space and time for my feelings so I could stop focusing on them all day, and I really felt like I was making progress. Then the trainings suddenly became really irrelevant, even though I was selecting the topics I felt would be most helpful. Two weeks out of a tremendously painful breakup, I don't want to hear encouragement to start dating again, or what to look for in a next partner, or really anything about the future other than taking care of myself, grieving, letting go. I rarely listened to the trainings after this shift, so I paid for 3 months of content when I barely used 1. I wish you either could work on the consistency/relevancy of the trainings, or have shorter time periods of commitment available. Really great start, disappointing finish. ### 4/5 — Mostly love, but some suggestions *2020-08-03, version 3.1.6* Mend has been tremendously helpful navigating a breakup that has left me feeling utterly heartbroken. However, I feel that some of the trainings aren’t always the most helpful. For example, my training today was about “why you keep going back to your ex” and one of the possible reasons was seeking validation. I’m not going back to my ex partner and never used him as a way to seek validation. Like I said, I really do love this app, but wish the reasons for breaking up we’re more broad. I couldn’t find anything that fit the end of my relationship specifically, and perhaps that is why I’ve found a few trainings unhelpful. ### 3/5 — Built with love, needs work *2019-12-18, version 3.1.5* Sometimes this app says exactly what you need to hear. Sometimes it makes you think of things you never would have thought of, teaches you about yourself, tells you everything will be okay and makes you believe it. These are beautiful things. However, it’s undercut significantly by glitches within the app. Although the interface is incredibly simple (it looks like a chat between you and your friend), it glitches almost daily by duplicating responses and questions. This is annoying, but fine. Today, my training was a disaster. I specified that I was broken up with, and that the reason was “fell out of love”, meaning my partner no longer loved me and broke up with me. Today, my training was taken from the switched perspective, and I had to listen to two minutes of “maybe if you’re willing and your partner is willing, you may fall in love again!”. It was cruel to hear about a reality that is not possible, but one I want. To top it off, the journal prompt was “What factors contributed to me falling out of love with my partner?”. My answer: “I didn’t.” The app should make sure trainings like this are not available to those who have been broken up with, because otherwise, it makes a crappy day so much worse for it’s paying users. ### 4/5 — Great app *2019-05-23, version 3.1.1* I love this app, it’s perfect for a quick pick me up or to set the tone for the day. I listen to my daily session on my way to work and do a quick journal entry before clocking in. It helps me start the day with healing in mind and not let myself fall into a rut. The only complaint I have is that in continues to prompt you to do a session when you’ve already done it for the day. I keep thinking it has another one for me and I’m always bummed to find that there’s no more for the day, it just keeps reminding me anyway. Other than that it’s great. ### 5/5 — Thank God I found this app seriously *2019-02-13, version 3.0.8* It’s only been day 2 and whoever made this app I pray you get blessed tremendously. It’s like someone Is holding your hand every step of the way and not leaving your side while you’re going through this heartbreaking heartache of loneliness. Family and friends don’t understand of course they say everything takes time, just let it go. But this app speaks to me so the point that I cry listening to it daily and being able to write down my feelings. I pray this is my breakthrough to never settle and deal with one of the most toxic relationships I’ve ever endured. ### 5/5 — UHM AMAZING APP *2019-01-29, version 3.0.7* Thank you for this app i cannot even begin to explain. Totally eased my mind and my heart after a terribly painful breakup. Helped me to grow as a person and not feel so alone. Personable audio training that really makes me feel like she is right there and truly understands you. Great for reflecting and growing. Truly saved me. Cannot thank you enough for this app. It is very much appreciate and has really made a lasting impact. Finally I just stoped using it as I am now strong enough to stand on my own two feet thanks to the help I got from this! Looking forward to the future! If you’re going through a break up try this out seriously! ### 5/5 — Great help! *2019-01-23, version 3.0.7* I really appreciate all the help after my break up. It was specific to my needs since my circumstances were about distance and not a desire to break up. It was hard to manage long-distance and we care a lot about each other. However, timing was not appropriate. As I learned here timing is essential for a relationship to work and it is no one’s fault if it doesn’t work out. This app has helped see my progress as well as keeping me positive in hard days. I don’t always agree with what they say, but most of it gave me a new perspective to think about my relationship and healthy ways to “mend”. ### 5/5 — A huge comfort *2019-01-11, version 3.0.7* Can’t say enough good things about this app. It won’t cure your heartache, but it’s a soothing reminder that things will be okay in time. Whenever I’m having a moment of anxiety, anger or frustration about my recent rejection, it’s been an enormous source of support. I was left feeling worthless after my most recent relationship unraveled. Mend has restored my self confidence. I felt like something was wrong with me, but through these quick sessions, I have been reminded of my value and I look forward to continuing to improve myself in 2019 💕 ### 3/5 — Good except... *2018-12-23, version 3.0.7* Doesn't allow you access to previous journal entries without paying for a premium subscription so you may want to use a different journaling option when completing assignments. That alone knocks it down to two stars but I'm reluctantly giving it three stars for the solid content. One last thing: i realize that the overwhelming majority of people who use this app will likely be women but, just in case you hadn't heard, guys go through breaks up too (i.e. the content could stand to have a male pictured every once in a while not to mention that the vibrator ads feel tone deaf for oh so many reasons...). ## Most critical reviews (10 lowest-rated) ### 1/5 — Inaccessible for Lower Income People *2021-09-25, version 4.0.1* I’ve used Mend over the years as needed and it’s been enormously helpful in my healing of past heartbreaks. Over the years it went from entirely free to exorbitantly expensive. I understand there are costs to maintain staff, have those great articles, salaries, support… I just wish they had cheaper options for people who can’t afford to spend a minimum of $60 for the most basic level program. It gives richer people access to resources and perpetuates the idea that if a certain class/income bracket of people can’t afford it, they don’t deserve it, and they’ll have to fend for themselves. Elle please make another app for lower income women or create a simpler program that costs less. Something that charges weekly instead of every 3mo. ### 1/5 — Cash grab app *2020-04-23, version 3.1.5* Don’t waste your time, you’re better off going to the store and buying a spiral notebook and telling yourself that it’s not your fault your relationship ended over and over again. This app pretty much just forces you buy a “program”(and by the way, the “programs are pretty expensive), and if you don’t purchase one, it only asks you how you’re feeling today by choosing a smiley face that suits you, and then tells you to start journaling. ABSOLUTE CASH GRAB APP NOT AT ALL INTERESTED IN HELPING YOU GET OVER AN EX. Oh and the articles that they have on the app, are pretty much useless, they don’t go into a psychological detail about why you’re feeling the way that you are or why your ex was the way they were. Just a bunch of repetitive positive affirmation stuff that honestly don’t get you anywhere. CASH GRAB APP ### 1/5 — Really disappointed *2020-02-02, version 3.1.5* This app was recommended to me during a session I had with a counselor on a text hotline. I really am struggling and I was hopeful for this app. You take a lil questionnaire explaining your situation so the app can accommodate to yours. So far so good. As soon as I got that done I had to rate my mood for that day, listen to maybe a 5 min recording, and journal how I felt and what I wanted to accomplish in the app. First day done, nice. Now, after the first day you have to subscribe for the recordings which I find really upsetting. Without the recordings all you can do is track your mood and how many days it’s been since the breakup. You can still journal too but what’s the point if you’re not really getting any advice, I might as well type out my feelings somewhere else. Basically, if you want actual help you have to pay a good amount to receive it. ### 1/5 — Waste of (a lot of) money *2019-11-13, version 3.1.5* I wanted to like this app, and some people actually recommended it to me. However, it is SO EXPENSIVE, and I felt like the sessions got worse and more generic AFTER I spent the money. It also isn’t clear up front that the first seven days are free. I thought I had to make a decision after the first training, and I was in such a bad place that I just signed up and spent the money. I feel like this app preys on people going through a hard time, and once you spend the money, no one cares about actually helping you deal with what you’re going through. There’s also no way to get a refund. I tried to push through since I spent $110, but the last few “sessions” have been generic and entirely not applicable to my situation in any way. It’s basically a bunch of 3-5 minute podcasts that I feel like you could find for much cheaper anywhere, and the rest of the content isn’t any better than what you could find on elite daily or the Odyssey. Very disappointed and would not recommend. ### 1/5 — Mend for everyone? *2019-11-12, version 3.1.5* I was pretty disappointed when I found what mend had to offer. Forget the almost immediate paywall. This is the world we live in now, I guess. I selected infidelity as the reason for my breakup because that was the closest to a breech of trust. But I was the one who broke the trust. The fact that this app didn’t even account for that possibility let me to wonder if I was even worth it. I’m still struggling, and I thought the stories from others might help. I know from the App Store that the creator is female. I know I’m not entitled to every app catering to me, but the story I read quoted the creator saying how she knew this experience is universal. I have emotions, and I can be haunted by past with the best of them. I’m not a breakup scientist, so maybe there is something significantly different among how genders react to the end of a relationship. I was hoping this app would be there to help me through that, but it seemed mostly geared to people more or less like the creator. Not surprising, but still disappointing. Good thing I have a backup of crying and dancing to songs we listened to in the middle of the night 2 years later. ### 1/5 — Used to love it when it was free/ disappointed in the update *2019-10-11, version 3.1.5* I used to love this app and live by it. I turned all my friends on it and would recommend it (and Elles podcast) to everyone I met. I’m so disappointed to see the pricing model, it is so not affordable and absolutely dismissive of the working class. This app is no longer accessible to anyone who isn’t willing to shell out $60-$150. I understand the need to make revenue and that capitalism affects everything, yet, I am incredibly disappointed in Elle & her team for choosing a pricing model that is unaffordable to most people (and the people who might need this most because they can’t afford therapy etc.) It is also awfully dehumanizing and rude to say that “mend is as adorable as a latte a week!”. It’s a full $70 breaking it down to “a latte a week”‘isn’t going to make anyone feel better. This used to be a life saver for me. It felt like Elle and her team really cared about the individuals, the community, and the healing they were bringing to folks. I enjoyed it while it lasted but I will not be subscribing because I cannot afford it. ### 2/5 — I don’t have spare money to spend on this app *2022-02-17, version 4.0.1* I was really starting to love this app until the paywall came up. For some reason I thought something like this was solely made as an act of empathy and care to help people, but I forget the world is run on money. And even then its way too over priced no matter how good the info is or could may help, I can find help other places for cheap or free. unless the money is going somewhere that can actually help people, what’s the point of paying? Sorry waste of time, deleted, and to anyone else out there that loves this app and the aid it brings, then that’s cool that’s fine just not for me with how much it is. ### 2/5 — Got Over My Heartbreak in a Day *2020-05-23, version 3.1.6* I gave this app 2 stars because it helped me to get over my break in a day. After, I saw the prices to continue after the 1st day that is. That cured me of wanting to spend any more time and money in this case. I'm not about to spend my hard earned money when I don't even really know what I'm getting after 1 day. I already wasted enough time on a one sided relationship as it is. Don't get me wrong I do like the concept of this app. I just think the prices are a little steep. At the very least this app could offer a free 7-14 day trial to see if it's even worth the cost going forward. ### 2/5 — Good, then ok, then, Whaaatt?? *2019-01-05, version 3.0.7* Was going nicely: good content, interface, very good intuitive lay out and friendly and topical trainings! Then the app got annoying with it’s single-advertiser vibrator company telling me about itself •every time I opened it• followed by repeatedly crashing and lagging. Then one day it forgot who I was, and I was setting it up like it was the very first time I opened it with a chirpy, “nice to meet you! What do your friends call you?” Whaaaa? Wait, we were supposed to be talking about Self Forgiveness, we had a plan. What with the amnesia. Deleted it. It was like it ghosted me ... another heartbreak ;-)) Bummer, I really liked it! But it was pretty expensive and some of the training wasn’t relevant even if you’re selecting the topics(?). ### 2/5 — Not what I expected *2018-04-15, version 2.2.6* For a subscription paid app, this is severely lacking. I liked the mood tracker and the daily sessions. But the sessions are only 1-5 mins long and if they are on a topic that doesn’t speak to you, then you’re out of luck until tomorrow. The collection of stories about breakup topics is interesting, but I felt they were things you could find with a quick google search. Overall, as someone who is going through a breakup, I feel like I need more support and guidance than a 5 minute discussion could give. Plus it’s the same price as the Calm app, which has significantly better features and more of them in general. I’m disappointed because it’s something that I felt I needed, but it didn’t end up helping for me. ## Most praised reviews (10 highest-rated) ### 5/5 — From an LMHC, pleasantly surprised 🙌 *2021-11-24, version 4.0.1* I never write reviews but this one deserves a nod. I have downloaded plenty of self help apps over the years and have fallen off after a couple days or have found them to be clunky to use. Mend is truly helpful. I downloaded it because I was going through a heartbreak that I really couldn’t let go of, and 3 months later, I can truly say that it’s getting better and Mend has been a part of that. Also noteworthy, I’m a licensed mental health counselor so I have pretty high standards (and also skepticism and lack of patience) with this stuff. Why it works— the practices are short daily audio clips with short journal prompts that you can just type into your phone (or I got into the habit of voice-to-text it). You can log your mood for the day (with cute icons), self-care activities, and read articles. So it’s all intended to be a short and sweet daily practice. Less than 5 min, really. And knowing what I know about psychology, that’s why I think/know/have found it works. Also, the app is just really user friendly and pleasant visually. I spent the money for 2 of the programs and I plan to continue to explore what else they have available, even though I’m at a place where I don’t really feel I “need” it anymore. Really nice work to the creators of Mend. Bravo in your intention and execution. 👏 ### 5/5 — Well worth it *2021-02-18, version 4.0.1* I highly recommend Mend. This is the first app review I have ever written because I believe this is a great product. The lessons have given me comfort during heartbreak but also helped me process what happened and develop a new perspective and forgiveness to move on. I don’t agree with everything it says, but I like how the app asks for your feedback and caters the lessons around you. Review the journals has been extremely valuable. Definitely worth it as a supplement to any work you are currently doing! ### 5/5 — Heartbreak recovery *2020-10-16, version 4.0* I was going through two major break ups with two guys I thought I could have future with . One break up happened in 2018 and I was not familiar with apps that are available to heal me and then I found this app and I like how every day I get up to a support where I can feel like myself and I can learn new topics everyday and practice those topics with me . I also had another break up in 2020 and the similar thing happened the break up happened after 7 months . I did see so many red flags in the relationship but did not realize there won’t be any future with this person . I like how in one lesson I learned that the future we see in our relationship is not always a future we think is meant for us . Thank you ### 5/5 — Great help to move past heartbreak *2019-08-15, version 3.1.2* A friend suggested that I take a look at this app to help me get through a recent break up a month ago. After a 13 year relationship, I suddenly found myself feeling very alone, sad and having a really hard time moving past the break up, especially since it was not my choice. I have only been a member for a couple days but so far it has already helped me tremendously knowing that other peoples stories are similar, and knowing I will move past the pain and it will be OK. It really gives you some great resources, daily check in and affirmations and is helping me to maintain a positive outlook. I would recommend anybody give this a try. ### 5/5 — This App is Giving Yourself the Best Give You Can *2019-05-28, version 3.1.1* I love Mend. After going through numerous breakups in my life, I was always looking back—questioning, analyzing, suffering—and the hardest thing is to do was to just accept and move forward. Mend makes it easier to do so. The positive reinforcement to take care of yourself, being okay with how you feel in the moment, and providing encouragement you need to make yourself stronger I think is the best gift you can give yourself by using Mend. ### 5/5 — My heart is healing 🥰 *2019-05-11, version 3.1.0* This app has been one of my best self-help and self-love purchases ever. After the devastating loss of a long-term relationship, I was having a hard time coping and accepting my new normal. But the daily check-in, audio session, journaling, and notifications kept me on track with healing and embracing my new future!! Not every audio session is what I need BUT listening to each has given me insight and ignition to continue moving forward ❤️ Thank you sincerely!!! 🙏🏻 ### 5/5 — Comfort and accountability *2019-05-09, version 3.1.0* This app has been a really good way for me to keep my thoughts authentic, to feel validated in my emotional process, and come to terms with how my life is now. My breakup resulted in the loss of my home, and my city, as well as my ex. It has taken/is taking a lot of adjusting. But this app has helped tremendously. I definitely recommend it to anyone going through grief and intense change. You can get through it. This app can make it a little easier. ### 5/5 — Hopeful again! *2019-05-05, version 3.1.0* I just finished my first week on Mend (the free trial). I feel so much better than I did this time last week. I was crying through out the day, crying in the shower, crying before I fell asleep. I was so so sad. I was heartbroken and in denial. How could this be? He’s just gone after so much? I was down in the absolute dumps with no hope. After 1 week I feel like myself again. I’m happy, I want to do things with friends, I have a better understanding of our breakup. Most importantly, I have hope. I am not fixed after just one week which is why I’ve chosen to renew my subscription. But I am MUCH better. I recommend this app 100%! I am so so grateful and can not wait to see my results in the months to come. ### 5/5 — Morning ritual therapy *2019-03-12, version 3.0.8* I found this a few weeks after my girlfriend of 5 years/wife of 5 months left me. It has been a great way to start the day to help me move on. The daily topic journal entries help, letting me pour out what I need to say and how I feel. I get daily motivational messages/notifications. There’s a lot of daily articles that are worth the read. I’m only on day 7, but I subscribed for a 3 month trial today. Who knows I may go for the year maybe even more depending on how long the healing will take. To anyone feeling like moving on is impossible or not even worth it, please check this out. Your not alone. I’m looking forward to seeing my progress get better each day thanks to this app. ### 5/5 — Great beginning *2019-03-10, version 3.0.8* Okay yea I might me the only 13 year old on this app but I don’t know I might sound stupid saying this but this is very helpful. I’ve cried 4 days straight iver my ex boyfriend who left me because “he just didn’t love me anymore” and I still found myself today that I miss him so much, I think they should make this app totally free because a lot of us girls or guys suffer after a breakup. He was really the first guy I went out with and hanged out with him so maybe that’s why it was hard for me to let go of him. Excellent content though!! --- *Data collected daily from the US App Store and indexed by [AppsHunter](https://appshunter.io/). 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