# Olively: Anxious & Avoidant — Attachment Style Translator > Relationship communication translator based on attachment theory. (iPhone/iPad app by Yosha Ventures.) - Source: https://appshunter.io/ios/app/olively-anxious-and-avoidant/id6755921191 (this page in markdown: same URL + `.md`) - Developer: [Yosha Ventures](https://appshunter.io/developer/1849490980) - Category: Lifestyle - Price: Free with in-app purchases - Rating: 4.70/5 from 454 App Store ratings · 29 written reviews indexed - Age rating: 4+ - Requires: iOS 17.6 · 54 MB - Languages: American English, French (France), German (Germany), Indonesian, Japanese, Brazilian Portuguese, Chinese (Simplified, China), European Spanish - Released: 2025-12-15 - Data updated: 2026-09-10 - Monetization: free with in-app purchases - User reviews in markdown: https://appshunter.io/ios/app/olively-anxious-and-avoidant/id6755921191/reviews.md ## What is Olively? Olively is the attachment style app for understanding your relationship patterns through attachment theory. Learn how anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, secure attachment, insecure attachment, and codependency patterns show up in real communication. Take an attachment style quiz, understand your relationship patterns, learn how your attachment system shows up in texts and conflict, and practice more secure communication with tools for real conversations. Olively helps you move from spiraling, shutdown, protest behavior, reassurance-seeking, defensiveness, mixed signals, and repeated fights toward clearer communication, healthier boundaries, repair, and earned secure attachment. Built around attachment theory, Olively combines an attachment style quiz, partner-style insights, guided programs, a practical attachment library, message translation, text decoding, Relationship Pulse, and Spiral Support. How Olively Helps Attachment Style Quiz Find your attachment style and learn how anxious, avoidant, fearful avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment patterns show up in communication, intimacy, conflict, and repair. Understand Your Relationship Pattern Add your partner’s attachment style to see how your two patterns interact. Olively helps explain anxious-avoidant dynamics, reassurance loops, emotional shutdown, distancing, overthinking, and repair needs. Translate Messages Type what you want to say. Olively helps rewrite it for your partner’s attachment style so your message is clearer, calmer, and less likely to trigger defensiveness. Decode Texts Paste a message from your partner and see what your anxious, avoidant, or insecure attachment system may be hearing compared with what they may actually mean. Relationship Pulse Answer a few questions about what is happening and get a read on the pattern: why it feels triggering, what dynamic may be showing up, and what secure next step to try. Spiral Support When you are overthinking a short reply, waiting for reassurance, or afraid your partner is pulling away, Olively helps you slow down, name the trigger, and choose a more secure response. 7-Day Programs Follow guided programs for anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, codependency, conflict repair, boundaries, reconnection, and secure relationship habits. Attachment Library Learn attachment theory in practical language, including anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, secure attachment, emotional availability, nervous system triggers, communication patterns, and relationship repair. Olively is for you if: - You spiral over texts, tone, silence, or delayed replies - You want an attachment style quiz with practical next steps - You are healing anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or codependency patterns - You and your partner repeat the same fight again and again - You want to communicate without escalating conflict - You want to understand anxious and avoidant attachment dynamics - You want healthier boundaries, repair, and secure communication Many relationship fights are not only about the words being said. They are about the attachment system underneath them. An anxious attachment style may hear rejection where none was intended. An avoidant attachment style may hear pressure or criticism in a request for closeness. Codependency patterns can make it hard to pause, set boundaries, or stop chasing reassurance. Olively helps turn those moments into clearer, calmer conversations. Instead of asking “What should I text back?” in panic, Olively helps you understand what you are feeling, what your partner may be feeling, what could trigger conflict, and how to respond from a more secure place. Olively uses attachment-aware AI guidance to support communication and education. It is not a replacement for therapy, diagnosis, crisis support, or professional relationship counseling. ## Key features - Translate messages based on attachment styles - Decode partner's communication - AI-powered relationship check-ins - Guided 7-day relationship programs - Attachment theory library - Real-time trigger risk scores ## Pricing and in-app purchases Base price: Free. **Subscriptions** | Subscription | Price | Period | | --- | --- | --- | | Olively Annual | $79.99 | per year | | Olively Pro | $19.99 | per month | | Olively Pro (3 months) | $39.99 | per 3 months | | Olively Weekly | $6.99 | per 7 days | ## Recent user reviews (10 of 29) All indexed reviews: https://appshunter.io/ios/app/olively-anxious-and-avoidant/id6755921191/reviews.md ### 1/5 — No Free Option *2026-08-23* You have to pay money to use the app. Makes you do a long useless quiz and then you get stuck at the pay page. Waste of time, if you’re gonna require people to pay to use it at least put a disclaimer ### 1/5 — Supports the dismissive communication *2026-08-16* I've been using this app now for about 4 months. The way it responds supports the dismissive avoidant behavior so that you don't trigger the avoidant rather than help to communicate effectively. It's dangerous in that the app convinces the anxious that what they are doing and saying is wrong when it's really just teaching you how to succumb. **Developer response:** Thank you for spending four months with Olively and for taking the time to write this. We're constantly working to improve Olively, and feedback from someone who's used the app this deeply is invaluable to us. We'd be grateful to hear more about your experience so we can improve: contact@olively.app. -Zach, Olively ### 2/5 — Crazy and mean *2026-08-07* This app is crazy and mean. It’s supposed to help with attachment styles but it’s so argumentative. It doesn’t tell you how to get your person back. It kept telling me to leave him alone and when I asked for advice it refused to give me advice. Like 3xs. So much attitude. ### 1/5 — Poor Customer Service *2026-08-02* The team will not refund me after the trial ended and I could not cancel my subscription. I have never experienced such lack of empathy and unwillingness to cooperate. Refusing to refund me $70 is great for my anxiety, thank you! ### 1/5 — Does not listen to you *2026-07-21* Awful app. does not help you whatsoever. gives corny text suggestions and refuses to answer your questions because it thinks it’s “protecting you”. it’s a bot that should be able to do as i ask. ### 1/5 — can only use if you pay *2026-07-15, version 2.3* Absolutely ridiculous in my opinion ### 5/5 — Helps So Much! *2026-07-09* This has helped me communicate so much better with my boyfriend who is a fearful avoidant. I have an anxious attachment style. While I don’t have the typical issues with texting that this attachment style has, I struggle with those anxious thoughts. This app has helped me understand his attachment style, what he needs, and how to effectively communicate. It has also helped me calm down with the pulse reads and insights! I definitely recommend this app to anyone who is new to dating or in a relationship! ❤️ ### 1/5 — Stupid *2026-07-06, version 2.2.7* Don’t download, it’s like 42 bucks and it’s a waste. And won’t refund me when I cancel ### 1/5 — App is junk and free if you just use any Ai tool to ask the same questions — don’t install *2026-07-03* Support is nonexistent and they’ll keep charging you even if you request cancellation. Just remember that most of what this app is doing is basic knowledge. I really wish i had never downloaded this POS. You can literally do this with any free AI tool. And $50 a year for the dopamine hit isn’t worth it. **Developer response:** Hi Kitty, all Olively subscriptions are billed and cancelled directly through Apple, so once you cancel in your iPhone Settings, no further charges are possible from us or anyone else. Refunds are also handled by Apple at reportaproblem.apple.com, and they're quick with subscription requests. We answer every email at contact@olively.app - if there's anything unresolved on your end, that's the fastest way to reach us. All the best, Zach Creator of Olively ### 1/5 — Arrogant, patronising and argumentative AI bot *2026-06-26* Some of the useful content and feature features is overshadowed by an AI chat feature which is arrogant argumentative, patronising and refuses to answer the question you ask it. Resulting in far greater frustration caused than the whole purpose of the app which is presumably to affect a calmer, more balanced state of play for the user, Wiele furnishing the user with the information they ask for and alleged insights which the app claims to offer a domain expert. A real wasted opportunity. They also charged the annual subscription fee slightly before the end of the 3 day free period they promised. ## Frequently asked questions about Olively ### What does Olively do? Olively acts as a communication translator for relationships, helping partners understand each other by rephrasing messages based on attachment theory. It aims to reduce conflict and improve connection by making communication clearer and less triggering. ### How does Olively help with communication? The app allows you to type what you want to say, and it rewrites it to be better received by your partner, showing you the 'Trigger Risk.' It also helps you decode what your partner actually meant versus what your own attachment style might have interpreted, offering suggested responses. ### Is Olively free to use? The app offers a free version with in-app purchases. While you can access core features and some content, certain programs, advanced insights, or unlimited translations may require purchase. ### What is attachment theory and how does Olively use it? Attachment theory explains how early relationships shape our adult connection patterns. Olively uses this science to tailor translations and insights to your specific attachment style (anxious, avoidant, secure) and your partner's, helping you understand why you communicate and react the way you do. ### Who is Olively for? This app is designed for individuals who feel misunderstood in their relationships, often due to differing communication styles stemming from attachment differences. It's for those who have been called 'too much' or 'emotionally unavailable' and want to break recurring arguments by improving how they express themselves and interpret their partner. ## Version history (last 5 releases) ### 2.4.0 — 2026-09-05 Under-the-hood improvements to onboarding and stability. ### 2.3.9 — 2026-09-01 Bug fixes and performance improvements ### 2.3.8 — 2026-08-20 Bug fixes and performance improvements ### 2.3.7 — 2026-08-17 Olively now speaks Japanese. Plus small fixes and improvements. ### 2.3.6 — 2026-08-14 Bug fixes and performance improvements ## More apps by Yosha Ventures - [HairSync](https://appshunter.io/ios/app/hairsync/id6754661040) - [Audilift](https://appshunter.io/ios/app/audilift/id6755494841) All apps by Yosha Ventures: https://appshunter.io/developer/1849490980 ## Related topics [avoidant](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/avoidant) · [attachment style](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/attachment-style) · [attachment](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/attachment) · [anxious attachment app meadow](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/anxious-attachment-app-meadow) · [anxious attachment](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/anxious-attachment) · [anxo](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/anxo) · [anxious attachment test](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/anxious-attachment-test) · [attachment style quiz](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/attachment-style-quiz) · [attentiveconnect](https://appshunter.io/ios/topics/attentiveconnect) --- *Data collected daily from the US App Store and indexed by [AppsHunter](https://appshunter.io/). 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