# shary: share your mental load — Family calendar that thinks > Family calendar that thinks (iPhone/iPad app by Die Software Zimmerer Matthias Gattringer e.U..) - Source: https://appshunter.io/ios/app/shary-share-your-mental-load/id6796055062 (this page in markdown: same URL + `.md`) - Developer: [Die Software Zimmerer Matthias Gattringer e.U.](https://appshunter.io/developer/6796055064) - Category: Productivity - Price: Free - Age rating: 4+ - Requires: iOS 15.0 · 34 MB - Languages: American English, Dutch, French (France), German (Germany), Italian, Polish, European Portuguese, European Spanish, Turkish - Released: 2026-08-07 - Data updated: 2026-10-15 ## What is shary? The work nobody sees is the work that wears you out. Not the packing of the gym bag, but remembering that it needs packing. Not the appointment, but knowing it is due. That thinking almost always lands with one person, without anyone deciding it should. With vaccination schedules and check-up reminders for the UK, Germany, Austria and Switzerland. In nine languages: English, Deutsch, Español, Français, Italiano, Português, Nederlands, Polski and Türkçe. Other apps hand that work from one parent to the other. With shary you both hand it to the app. WHAT IT DOES ON ITS OWN Add your child with a name and a date of birth, and shary works out what is coming up over the next twelve months: reviews, vaccinations, official deadlines, seasonal things. You see the whole plan on day one, and you enter none of it. In the UK that is over 90 rules, following the NHS schedule and the red book. A FAMILY CALENDAR FOR TWO Every appointment in one place, in a month view you both see: doctor, nursery, clubs, parents' evening. Whatever one of you adds is instantly on both phones. Weekly routines like swimming or music lessons have their own tab. You can also show your Google, Outlook or iCloud calendar inside shary. A countdown counts the days to the holiday. You both see who took on and finished what, so the work nobody sees becomes visible. No points and no pressure, just a quiet view of how it is spread. WEATHER TIPS shary checks the weather and says what the kids need: waterproofs when it rains, a hat when it is cold, sun cream on hot days. Matched to their age. KITCHEN DISPLAY A tablet on the wall shows everyone the day: appointments, shopping, meals, weather and a countdown to the holiday. When nobody uses it, it shows your family photos. VOICE INPUT, FOR WHEN YOUR HANDS ARE FULL Tap the microphone and say "milk on the shopping list" or "dentist on Friday", and shary files it in the right place. WHAT ELSE IS IN THERE, AT NO EXTRA COST - An emergency sheet as a PDF: allergies, doctor, contacts on one page for the babysitter - Weekly drop-off and pick-up plan, settled once - Meal plan, with ingredients going onto the shopping list in one tap - Passport and ID expiry reminders - Birthdays with the gift idea attached, so it is still there in November FOR GRANDPARENTS TOO Do you help your parents or grandparents? Add them as relatives: appointments, medication and GP in one place. From 60 on, shary also reminds you of the flu jab, trip hazards, a medication check and drinking enough on hot days. NO ACCOUNT, NO EMAIL, NO PASSWORD You never sign up. Your household is connected by an invite code, nothing else. Your data is stored encrypted, on a server in Austria. No ads, no tracking, no selling of your data. WHY IT EXISTS The idea came from my wife. She was the first to name what was going wrong for us. I did not understand it at first, because I thought we were splitting the work anyway. Until it dawned on me what it is really about: not the work itself, but having to remember it. SUBSCRIPTION AND PRICES 14 days free, you are only charged after that. One subscription covers the whole household, not each device. Anyone who joins by invite pays nothing. Two tiers: for two (up to 3 devices) and a larger household (up to 6 devices), each monthly or yearly. The App Store shows the price in your currency before you confirm. Payment is charged to your Apple Account on confirmation of purchase. The subscription renews automatically for the same period unless it is cancelled at least 24 hours before the end of the current period. Renewal is charged within 24 hours before the end of the period. You can manage and cancel it at any time in your Apple Account settings. If the subscription lapses, nothing is deleted. Everything stays visible and exportable, only new entries and reminders pause. Privacy Policy: https://heyshary.com/en/privacy Terms of Use: https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/ ## Is shary safe? Not enough ratings yet to assess shary. ## Is shary legit? shary: share your mental load has limited verification signals. The AppsHunter Legitimacy Score for shary is 58 out of 100 points across 7 verification signals from App Store and developer data. ## Version history (last 5 releases) ### 1.67.1 — 2026-10-14 Set up by talking: shary asks you one question at a time, and you simply answer. First your children with name, birthday, allergies and medication, then relatives such as grandparents, and finally fixed weekly appointments like swimming or music lessons. Before anything is saved, shary checks with you that it is right. shary can read the questions aloud, and one button mutes it. Anything you do not know, you skip. This works when you first set up and at any time later: "Rather talk than type?" when adding a child, "Tell a routine instead of typing" under routines. The microphone now works like in WhatsApp: hold it and speak, let go to take the text. Swipe up to lock the recording, then talk freely and finish with the tick. Short pauses to think no longer cut anything off. Speech recognition understands dates, weekdays, times and names in all nine languages. ### 1.67.0 — 2026-10-12 Set up by talking: shary asks you one question at a time, and you simply answer. First your children with name, birthday, allergies and medication, then relatives such as grandparents, and finally fixed weekly appointments like swimming or music lessons. Before anything is saved, shary checks with you that it is right. shary can read the questions aloud, and one button mutes it. Anything you do not know, you skip. This works when you first set up and at any time later: "Rather talk than type?" when adding a child, "Tell a routine instead of typing" under routines. The microphone now works like in WhatsApp: hold it and speak, let go to take the text. Swipe up to lock the recording, then talk freely and finish with the tick. Short pauses to think no longer cut anything off. Speech recognition understands dates, weekdays, times and names in all nine languages. ### 1.66.0 — 2026-10-10 Weather tips: shary checks the weather and says what the kids need. Waterproofs when it rains, a hat and gloves when it is cold, sun cream and a water bottle on hot days, matched to each child's age. And on hot days, a reminder that grandparents drink enough. Turn them on under More, Weather tips. We only look up the rough area, and only through our own server. Countdown: mark an appointment and shary counts down the days, in the overview and large on the kitchen display. The children's birthdays count down by themselves in the last two weeks. On the display it says "3 sleeps to go". The kitchen display becomes a photo frame: when nobody has looked at it for three minutes, it shows your family photos. The photos stay on the tablet. In the month calendar, the colour of the dots shows who is taking care of an appointment. So you see at a glance who is carrying a lot this week. ### 1.64.2 — 2026-10-10 Over 100 things you no longer have to think about: shary reminds you of check-ups, vaccinations, deadlines and season changes by itself, matched to your children's age and your country. Plus eight new reminders, from photographing the vaccination record to a head lice check after the holidays. New for grandparents and relatives aged 60 and over: reminders for the flu jab, trip hazards, a medication check, drinking on hot days and keeping the mind active together. On hot days shary also reminds you about drinking for children. Weekly routines now have their own tab under Appointments, right next to Calendar and List. The phone calendar subscription lives there too. New: show your own Google, Outlook or iCloud calendar inside shary. For viewing only, and only on your own device. You both see who takes on and finishes what under "How it is shared". That makes visible what usually nobody sees. Smaller improvements: screens close with a clearly visible X, today's appointments that are already over are no longer marked red, and prices show correctly in every currency. ### 1.64.0 — 2026-10-05 shary is now also available in Spanish, French, Italian, Portuguese, Dutch, Polish and Turkish. New: relatives. The "Children" tab is now called "Family", and there you can also add parents or grandparents you help care for. Appointments, medication, GP, insurance and emergency contact sit in one place. Reminders for children do not apply to relatives. The emergency sheet now also lists the medication someone takes. "Coming up" is now the Overview: calmer and tidier. A week strip at the top, today first, empty days grouped together and a "+" on every day to add something. The calendar icon shows the whole month. Drop-off & pick-up per child: if the same person does not always collect every child, you can now plan each child separately. New: the kitchen display. A tablet in the kitchen shows everyone the day: appointments, tasks, shopping and who does drop-off and pick-up, large and tickable. You'll find it under "More". For families who care for someone or support a child with a disability: count therapy prescriptions, put "What carers need to know" on the emergency sheet, hide development tips per child, and a template for applications and deadlines. Weekly routines now also show up in the calendar, in the app and in the calendar subscription for your phone. Your support ID now sits right under "More". 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