Lettr Dating vs Reluma
Price, ratings, monetisation and update history for both apps, side by side — with what reviewers say about each.
Lettr Dating
This dating platform focuses on serious relationships in NYC. Membership and a detailed profile are required to connect with others. Introductions cost stamps, with complimentary stamps provided weekly.
- Membership required
- Detailed profile completion
- Introduction letters for connections
- Weekly complimentary stamps
- Exclusive to New York City
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Lettr is NYC's Intentional Dating Platform. Full stop. Membership is required to participate in the Lettr Dating community. You can apply on a browser at https://lettr.dating/apply or download the app and apply from the home screen. How Lettr Works - Once your profile is approved, you will be sent login information and must fill out your profile completely (1+ good photos, (3) open ended 200 character prompts, and a few more fields). After, you may browse other members who match your dating preferences. If there is another member you're interested in, it costs (1) stamp to send them an Introduction Lettr. If your introduction is accepted, subsequent communications are free. Every member is given complimentary stamps weekly on Sunday. - What Makes Lettr Different There are many takes on how to improve the online dating experience. Our hypothesis is that what makes online dating so frustrating is not the lack of users but the inability to tell who's serious and who's not. Adding some reasonable friction (membership requirements, profile completion, minimum length introductions) separates the casual lurkers scrolling out of boredom from real, potential partners. Oh, and of course being exclusive to the one and only New York: the city so nice they named it twice.
Reluma
This app helps you understand your dating patterns by reflecting on your experiences without labels or quizzes. Built by a psychotherapist, it provides insights into your recurring behaviors and offers a quick read on relationship dynamics.
- Self-reflection on dating experiences
- Insights into recurring behaviors
- Therapist-developed methodology
- Moment-based feedback signals
- No labels or diagnoses
- Focus on user-driven decisions
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Should I keep seeing them? Dating can make it hard to hold onto the whole picture. A great night can overshadow a canceled plan. A disappointing moment can overshadow real effort. Reluma keeps what happened in view. Tell Reluma about a conversation, a promise, an apology, or a moment that stayed with you. Keep it in your own words, alongside the other moments with that person. When something else happens, add it to the same record. Revisit what they said, what they did, and what changed—with the earlier moments still there. • Record what happened, in your own words • Compare promises with the actions you’ve recorded • See what changed over time with one person • Keep what you want from the relationship in view • Return to moments saved to your account Reluma doesn’t tell you to stay or leave. It helps you look at the record, so your next decision can include more than the latest moment. Should I keep seeing them? Start with what happened. Terms of Use: https://app.getreluma.com/terms Privacy Policy: https://app.getreluma.com/privacy
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Verdict
The clearest difference is in-app purchases: Lettr Dating at none against Reluma's 1. Reluma's advantage is ads (none vs shown) and update cadence (weekly vs every 2 weeks). On price, rating, ratings volume and device support there is nothing between them.
Scored on Price · Rating · Positive reviews · Number of ratings · Update frequency · Ads · In-app purchases · Monetization · Best chart rank · Devices · Requires iOS
Both are free to download. Reluma sells 1 in-app purchase, starting at $7.99 per month. Lettr Dating asks for nothing beyond the download.
On the App Store both sit at effectively the same score — 5.0 for Lettr Dating against 5.0 for Reluma. Both are backed by a comparable volume of ratings — 1 and 2 respectively.
Lettr Dating ships an update every 2 weeks, Reluma weekly. The most recent releases landed on October 21, 2026 and October 24, 2026 respectively.
| Parameter | Lettr Dating | Reluma |
|---|---|---|
| Price | Free | Free |
| Rating | 5.0 (1 ratings) | 5.0 (2 ratings) |
| Positive reviews | — | 100.0% of reviews |
| Number of ratings | 1 | 2 — better |
| Update frequency | Every 2 weeks | Weekly — better |
| Ads | Yes | No — better |
| In-app purchases | No — better | Yes |
| Monetization | Ad-supported — better | Free with in-app purchases |
| Devices | iPhone | iPhone, iPad — better |
| Requires iOS | 16.4 — better | 16.6 |
| Further details — not scored | ||
| Size | 90 MB | 90 MB |
| Age rating | 17+ | 17+ |
| Developer | Friends & Lovers Digital LLC | Ronald Lawrence |
Customer experience
Lettr Dating
Reluma
In-app purchases
Lettr Dating
No in-app purchases
Reluma
- RELUMA Founding$7.991 Month
