Comparison

DatingSolidarity vs theFirstMessage

Price, ratings, monetisation and update history for both apps, side by side — with what reviewers say about each.

Head to head
About

DatingSolidarity

This app offers guidance and support for navigating the dating world. It provides tools to build self-understanding, create attractive profiles, and manage difficult conversations. Connect with a community for shared experiences and encouragement.

Highlights
  • Soothing pre/post-date audio
  • Self-understanding processes
  • Profile creation guidance
  • Meditations for disappointment
  • Sifting out timewasters
  • Conversation starters
  • Community support
  • Goal tracking
Features
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Because we date alone, it’s easy to lose our way. Solidarity keeps you on track. Supporting you to feel more resilient and empowered. Bolstered by comfort, clarity and community. I spent nearly a decade dating badly. I felt like I was running out of time. I decided to rethink my entire approach and within weeks I had met my favourite person. I hope this app lifts your spirits and enables you to date with more ease and clarity. I hope it helps you meet your favourite person more quickly, with far less anguish along the way. I created the app to offer the things I needed when dating. Distilling everything I learned and everything I longed for: *Soothing, encouraging words to listen to directly before and after going on dating apps. *Powerful processes to strengthen your understanding of yourself, your desires, your core needs, your lifestyle preferences and the type of partnership that will enable you to truly thrive. *Detailed guidance on how to create a profile that attracts lovely people you’re more likely to be compatible with. *Heartening meditations to alleviate disappointment and strengthen hope. *Advice on how to sift out timewasters and discern quality connections. *Conversation starters for better texting and more enriching dates. *A community of other daters who really get what it’s like being single. *A safe space to share bad date stories for healing, humour and catharsis. *Goal tracking to keep you focused. *Comforting words to calm pre-date nerves. *Scripts on how to let someone down kindly. *Guidance for tricky moments when you’re not sure how to proceed. *Empowering affirmations and uplifting screensavers. When we seek connection from a frustrated, exhausted, ravenous place, we tend to encounter people who perpetuate those experiences. When we seek connection from a grounded, energised, easeful place, we tend to encounter people who enhance those states. It’s always useful to have a cheerleader when we’re doing hard things. Dating is courageous. It’s also baffling and exhausting. I hope this app is a heartening ally, fortifying you as you search for your favourite person. Whilst bringing some humour and cheer to the bizarre process of looking for love in the modern world. Remember – your companion is out there. And every moment you’re getting closer to the warmth of their smile. They are going to be SO HAPPY when they finally get to meet you. When we feel lonely, we contract. When we feel supported, we expand. When we expand, magic happens… INFORMATION ABOUT THE APP AND PURCHASE OPTIONS By signing up, you will get access to subscription(s) that include features such as progress tracking, and offline sync. The download of DatingSolidarity is free of charge. Should you use DatingSolidarity app to access in-app content, we offer one of the following options: Free plan(s) - available to subscribe free of charge. Subscription based plan(s) - a recurring payment will be charged to your credit card after the trial period ends and when a subscription renews. A subscription renews automatically unless canceled at least 24 hours prior to the end of the subscription period. There is no increase in price when renewing. Subscription(s) can be managed and auto-renewal turned off in Account Settings in the App Store after purchase. One-time purchase based plan(s) - a payment will be charged to your credit card only once. Read our full Terms of Service and our Privacy Policy: https://passion.io/terms-of-service https://passion.io/privacy-policy

About

theFirstMessage

Features
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Confidence isn't something you're born with. It's something you practice. First Move is an interactive dating simulator that helps you become more confident in real conversations — no typing required. Every reply is a choice, so you can focus on making decisions instead of searching for the perfect words. Choose a real-world scenario, pick the person you want to approach, select your opening style, and navigate the conversation one decision at a time. Every choice changes the outcome, helping you discover what works before it happens in real life. Whether you're starting a conversation in a café, at the gym, on the street, or sending the first message online, First Move lets you practice without the fear of rejection — and gives you honest feedback after every scenario. WHAT YOU CAN DO • Practice complete dating conversations with interactive choices — no typing required • Learn natural approaches for real-life and online conversations • Choose between different opening styles • See realistic reactions and multiple conversation outcomes • Get honest feedback after every scenario • Build confidence through realistic practice • Generate instant openers whenever you need inspiration Less overthinking. More confidence. Your first move starts here.

Screenshots

DatingSolidarity1 screens
theFirstMessage3 screens

Verdict

The call

The clearest difference is in-app purchases: theFirstMessage at none against DatingSolidarity's 3. theFirstMessage also leads on ads (none vs shown). DatingSolidarity's advantage is update cadence (every 3 weeks vs every 2 months) and iOS requirement (15.1 vs 18.0). On price and device support there is nothing between them.

Scored on Price · Rating · Positive reviews · Number of ratings · Update frequency · Ads · In-app purchases · Monetization · Best chart rank · Devices · Requires iOS

CostPrice · In-app purchases · Ads · Monetization

Both are free to download. DatingSolidarity sells 3 in-app purchases, starting at $9.99 per month. theFirstMessage asks for nothing beyond the download.

UpkeepUpdate frequency

DatingSolidarity ships an update every 3 weeks, theFirstMessage every 2 months. The most recent releases landed on October 7, 2026 and October 25, 2026 respectively.

Scorecard4 real differences · 6 level
DatingSolidarity versus theFirstMessage: the parameters behind the verdict, then further details
ParameterDatingSolidaritytheFirstMessage
PriceFreeFree
Rating5.0 (1 ratings) — better—
Positive reviews100.0% of reviews—
Number of ratings1 — better—
Update frequencyEvery 3 weeks — betterEvery 2 months
AdsYesNo — better
In-app purchasesYesNo — better
MonetizationFree with in-app purchases—
DevicesiPhone, iPad, iPod — betteriPhone, iPad
Requires iOS15.1 — better18.0
Further details — not scored
Size89 MB59 MB
Age rating17+4+
DeveloperJuliet CattonDenys Matviienko

In-app purchases

3 purchases

DatingSolidarity

Subscriptions1
  • Dating Reimagined7 Days trial$9.991 Month
One-time2
  • First Date Fuel$5.99
  • 7 Days To Better Dating$70.00
None

theFirstMessage

No in-app purchases

Questions

Is DatingSolidarity free?
DatingSolidarity is free to download, with in-app purchases available.
Is theFirstMessage free?
theFirstMessage is free to download, with no in-app purchases.
Do DatingSolidarity or theFirstMessage have ads?
DatingSolidarity shows ads; theFirstMessage does not.
Which is updated more often, DatingSolidarity or theFirstMessage?
DatingSolidarity ships an update every 3 weeks, and theFirstMessage every 2 months. Most recently, DatingSolidarity was updated on October 7, 2026 and theFirstMessage on October 25, 2026.

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