HighFive vs Together

Your kids need 5 positive moments for every correction. Are you hitting that ratio? Research by Dr. John Gottman shows that the healthiest relationships maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. This principle is just as powerful at home as it is anywhere else. When children consistently receive five moments of praise, encouragement, or connection for every correction, they develop stronger self-esteem, deeper trust, and a genuine willingness to listen. HighFive makes this research-backed practice simple, visual, and even fun. FILL YOUR BEADS, CHANGE YOUR HABITS Many parents already know the 5:1 concept from bead bracelets: move a bead for each praise, and only allow yourself a correction once all five are filled. HighFive brings this powerful tactile system to your phone, where it is always within reach. Tap to log a praise and watch a bead fill with color. Once all five beads are lit, a correction is unlocked. It is a small interaction that rewires how you engage with your child throughout the day. BUILT FOR REAL FAMILIES - Multi-child support: Track each child separately with their own emoji avatar and color theme. Swipe between kids effortlessly. - Daily history: See your praise-to-correction ratio for every day at a glance. Spot patterns, celebrate progress, and stay accountable. - No judgment, just encouragement: Missed your ratio today? HighFive responds with gentle, supportive messages instead of guilt. Tomorrow is a new day. BADGES AND STREAKS THAT KEEP YOU GOING Parenting is a long game, and motivation matters. HighFive includes 20 badges across four categories to celebrate your journey: - Milestone badges for logging your first praises and building consistency. - Ratio badges for hitting your 5:1 target across multiple days. - Streak badges for maintaining daily engagement over time. - Special badges for discoveries and unique achievements. The streak system includes a grace day mechanic, because real life happens. Miss a day and your streak survives. It is forgiving by design, just like the parenting style it encourages. THOUGHTFUL DETAILS - Dark mode for those late-night parenting moments. - Encouraging messages that rotate to keep you inspired. - Clean, calm interface designed to be used in the middle of a busy day. - Privacy-first: your family's data stays on your device. WHY 5:1? Dr. Gottman's research originally studied marriages, finding that stable, happy couples maintained a ratio of at least 5 positive interactions for every negative one. Parenting experts and child psychologists have since applied this principle to the parent-child relationship with remarkable results. Children raised in high-praise environments show greater resilience, better emotional regulation, and stronger family bonds. The challenge is not knowing the ratio. It is remembering to practice it in the chaos of daily life. That is exactly what HighFive is for. Start your first day today. Five praises. One bead at a time.

The fight ended an hour ago. You're both still replaying it. Together helps you start with what you're feeling, then talk it through together and see what really happened, in your own words. Free to start. START WITH WHAT YOU'RE FEELING Home starts with one question: How are you feeling in this relationship? Pick the feelings that fit, like ignored or overwhelmed. It takes a few taps, on your own, before you say a word. Knowing what's going on for you makes the next conversation easier to begin. TALK IT THROUGH TOGETHER When you're both ready, open Record and have the conversation in the same room, in your own words. Together turns it into a transcript and keeps each partner's words separate, so both sides are heard fairly. You can check who said what before Together reads the conversation. SEE WHAT HAPPENED A calm, neutral read on your conversation: — The overall climate of the talk — The moments that mattered, quoted in your own words — Strengths: what's already working between you — One thing to try next time No blame, no verdict. Just a clearer picture of the moment, so you can find your way back to each other. MAKE TIME FOR EACH OTHER Set up a weekly check-in with reminders, so you always have a time that's just for the two of you. Add topics as they come up during the week, start with the highlights, then get to the harder things together. Your conversations and check-ins stay in one shared history, so you can see how things change over time. DO IT AS A COUPLE Invite your partner with a code or a link, and share one relationship space in the app. YOUR PRIVACY Other Together users can't see your sessions. We don't sell your personal information or use your conversations for ads. You can delete everything anytime in Settings. Together is free to start. Name what you're feeling, then record the next one together.