Comparison

Text Here Instead vs Selfletter

Price, ratings, monetisation and update history for both apps, side by side — with what reviewers say about each.

Head to head
About

Text Here Instead

Features
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Breakups are hard. No contact is harder. You want to text them. You open the chat. You type the message. And then you wonder: "Should I send this?" That moment is exactly why this app exists. Because sometimes what you need is not contact. You need release. BUILT FOR YOUR BREAKUP, WHATEVER YOU WANT NEXT Not everyone starts no contact with the same goal. You can choose your journey whether you want to: • Get your ex back • Heal and move on • Or simply don't know yet You do not need to have your future figured out today. If you want your ex back, give yourself space to stop reacting from panic and start thinking clearly. No contact allows reality to set in and gives you the best shot at turning things around. If you want to move on, use the app to process the heartbreak, get through the urges, and slowly rebuild your life around you again. If you don't know yet, that's okay too. Focus on getting through today without sending the message you may regret tomorrow. YOUR PRIVATE SPACE AFTER A BREAKUP Breakup recovery can be messy. One minute you feel strong. The next you are checking your phone, replaying old conversations, missing your ex, wondering if they miss you too, or convincing yourself that one text will make everything feel better. Text Here Instead gives that urge somewhere else to go. Use it when you are: • following the no contact rule • fighting the urge to text your ex • getting over a breakup or heartbreak • trying to move on from your ex • hoping to reconnect without chasing • dealing with separation anxiety or loneliness • processing a situationship or relationship ending • looking for a private breakup journal WHAT YOU CAN DO • Write (un)sent messages Type exactly what you want to say to your ex without contacting them. • Record voice notes Say it out loud and keep the voice note private. • Track your no contact streak Watch the days build and avoid resetting your progress in an emotional moment. • Remember why it ended Save your reason for the breakup so you can return to it when nostalgia takes over. • Get through the urge Use quick 90-second pattern interrupts instead of opening their chat. • Export your journey Download your breakup journal and unsent messages to reflect on how your thoughts, triggers, emotions, and goals have changed over time. You can put this into your chosen AI model and analyse your progress or ask it to give you the next steps in your journey. You can also talk to your therapist with the summary of your journey so far. WHY TEXT HERE INSTEAD? Most breakup apps try to tell you how you should feel. This one gives you somewhere to put what you already feel. Anger. Love. Confusion. Hope. Regret. The paragraph you rewrote six times. The message you want to send at 2 AM. Put it here instead. No judgment. No need to be "over it." No need to pretend you do not care. Just a private place to pause before acting. PRIVACY MATTERS Your breakup journal can contain some of the most personal things you will ever write. That is why your messages are stored on your device. No sign up needed. Your unsent texts and voice notes are yours. BUILT FROM A REAL BREAKUP Text Here Instead exists because its founder needed this exact app after his own breakup. Not another generic self-care app. Just somewhere to put the message when sending it to your ex is probably not the move. One day, you may realize you have stopped opening the app. You stopped counting the hours. You stopped drafting the text. You stopped wondering what they are doing every minute. That is the goal. Built to be deleted. Until then, when the urge hits: Don't open their chat. Open Text Here Instead. Write it. Feel it. Keep your no contact. Give yourself the space to decide what you truly want next. Pricing: Generous free tier. Weekly and Lifetime plans available per your commitment. Your data is always stored on your device. Terms of Use: https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/

About

Selfletter

This app allows you to write letters to your future self, to be delivered the next day, week, month, or even years later. It functions as a private diary that reflects on your present and anticipates your future.

Highlights
  • Write letters to your future self
  • Time capsule feature for delayed delivery
  • Daily letter delivery
  • Private storage on device and iCloud
  • Searchable letter archive
  • Customizable paper styles
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Write a letter to tomorrow-you tonight — and the next evening, open it. Selfletter is your nightly letter across time: today's hopes, worries, and reminders, delivered to the person you wake up as. It's a diary that meets you the next day. Reflect on today on one side, write to tomorrow on the other, and seal the night. When evening comes again, last-night-you is waiting with a letter just for you. Some nights, write further ahead. Seal a letter in a time capsule that won't open for a week, a month, or years — a gift to your future self that arrives exactly when you need it. Over time, your letters fill a quiet year you can look back on. • Write tonight, read tomorrow — a letter from past-you, every evening • Time capsules — seal letters for weeks, months, or years ahead • A year of you — a calendar of your nights, plus "a year ago tonight" • Yours alone — letters live on your device and iCloud, fully private • Search every word, choose your paper, and fill in any night you missed Tonight's letter is waiting. Write to tomorrow-you — and see what tomorrow brings. Selfletter. A letter to tomorrow, every night. — — — Privacy Policy: https://gurshanmann246.github.io/selfletter-pages/privacy/ Terms of Use (EULA): https://www.apple.com/legal/internet-services/itunes/dev/stdeula/ Terms of Service: https://gurshanmann246.github.io/selfletter-pages/terms/

Screenshots

Text Here Instead4 screens
Selfletter4 screens

Verdict

The call

The clearest difference is ads: Text Here Instead at none against Selfletter's shown. Text Here Instead also leads on iOS requirement (15.1 vs 17.0). Selfletter's advantage is update cadence (every 4 days vs every 10 days). On price, in-app purchases and device support there is nothing between them.

Scored on Price · Rating · Positive reviews · Number of ratings · Update frequency · Ads · In-app purchases · Monetization · Best chart rank · Devices · Requires iOS

CostPrice · In-app purchases · Ads · Monetization

Both are free to download. Text Here Instead sells 2 in-app purchases, starting at $1.99 per 7 days and Selfletter sells 3 in-app purchases, starting at $4.99 per month. Whichever you choose, the download price is not the number that matters.

UpkeepUpdate frequency

Text Here Instead ships an update every 10 days, Selfletter every 4 days. Both last shipped on October 31, 2026.

Scorecard3 real differences · 6 level
Text Here Instead versus Selfletter: the parameters behind the verdict, then further details
ParameterText Here InsteadSelfletter
PriceFreeFree
Rating—5.0 (1 ratings) — better
Number of ratings—1 — better
Update frequencyEvery 10 daysEvery 4 days — better
AdsNo — betterYes
In-app purchasesYesYes
Monetization—Free with in-app purchases
DevicesiPhone, iPad, iPod — betteriPhone, iPad
Requires iOS15.1 — better17.0
Further details — not scored
Size66 MB17 MB
Age rating4+4+
DeveloperHardik GalaAmar Labs Inc.

In-app purchases

2 purchases

Text Here Instead

Subscriptions1
  • Weekly Premium7 Days trial$1.997 Days
One-time1
  • Premium Unlock$19.99
3 purchases

Selfletter

Subscriptions2
  • Selfletter Premium · Monthly3 Days trial$4.991 Month
  • Selfletter Premium · Yearly3 Days trial$29.991 Year
One-time1
  • Selfletter Premium · Lifetime$89.99

Questions

Is Text Here Instead free?
Text Here Instead is free to download, with in-app purchases available.
Is Selfletter free?
Selfletter is free to download, with in-app purchases available.
Do Text Here Instead or Selfletter have ads?
Selfletter shows ads; Text Here Instead does not.
Which is updated more often, Text Here Instead or Selfletter?
Text Here Instead ships an update every 10 days, and Selfletter every 4 days. Most recently, Text Here Instead was updated on October 31, 2026 and Selfletter on October 31, 2026.

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