Slow Burn is a guided closeness program — a calm, structured way to rebuild connection at your own pace, on your own or with a partner.
It's built on Sensate Focus, a structured, step-by-step method developed by clinical researchers in the 1970s and used by licensed therapists ever since. Instead of a single session, Slow Burn turns the protocol into a six-stage program you move through one unhurried step at a time.
HOW IT WORKS
• A staged program — from simple, pressure-free connection through to full integration — with clear, clinical guidance for each session. Every stage has a solo form as well as a partnered one.
• A readiness gate that removes the awkward part. With a partner, the next stage opens only when you have BOTH privately tapped "I feel ready." No negotiating, no pressure.
• Private reflections after each session. You each answer a few questions on your own — and Slow Burn only ever surfaces what you BOTH named. Never the rest.
• Gentle, never-nagging reminders to keep the practice going.
TOGETHER
• Talk — seven decks of conversation cards for two, from easy warm-ups to deeper questions. Every card is optional, and you can save the ones you love.
• Try something new — each of you privately marks what you'd like to try, from stargazing to sourdough. Slow Burn shows only what you BOTH said yes to, with three small steps to get started.
• Journal — a fresh writing prompt each night, your reflections in one place, and one tap into Permission, our private journal app.
FOR EVERY KIND OF PERSON
Slow Burn adapts its language to you — your pronouns, your words for your partner, your relationship structure. It assumes no gender, no orientation, and no particular shape of relationship.
WHO IT'S FOR
Anyone reconnecting after a long stretch of drift — a new baby, a health change, a recovery, a stressful season, or simply years of two people moving at different speeds. It's for feeling close again, calmly and privately.
PRIVATE BY DESIGN
No account. No ads. No analytics. Nothing is collected about you. Your identity settings and your written notes never leave your device. If you pair two phones, they agree on a key only they hold and everything between them is end-to-end encrypted — the relay in the middle carries scrambled bytes it cannot read, and keeps none of them.
A NOTE FROM US
Slow Burn is a wellness and education program. It is not medical advice, and it is not a substitute for care from a qualified clinician. If you are managing pain, a medical condition, recovery, or a history of trauma, please work with a licensed therapist or a pelvic-floor physical therapist. The app links you to trusted professional directories to find one.
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