TransMe actually hits different.
I was completely over dating apps. Like, done. Every single one felt like a playground for chasers—or people who’d ask invasive questions before we even exchanged five messages.
Then my friend made me download TransMe. I rolled my eyes, but fine.
Night and day. The very first person to message me asked about my dog. Not my body. Not my surgery status. Not “so what are you.” Just: “What’s your dog’s name?” That has literally never happened to me.
We talked for about two weeks, then met up for tacos. He showed up on time, brought his pup too, and didn't make a single weird comment all night. We’ve been together three months now, and he’s never once made me feel like being trans is something to tiptoe around.
TransMe isn’t huge, and honestly, that’s why it works. People are respectful. The mods actually ban the creeps. It genuinely feels like a real community.
If you’re trans, nonbinary, or just tired of the usual garbage, give it a try. It finally feels safe out here.
Then my friend made me download TransMe. I rolled my eyes, but fine.
Night and day. The very first person to message me asked about my dog. Not my body. Not my surgery status. Not “so what are you.” Just: “What’s your dog’s name?” That has literally never happened to me.
We talked for about two weeks, then met up for tacos. He showed up on time, brought his pup too, and didn't make a single weird comment all night. We’ve been together three months now, and he’s never once made me feel like being trans is something to tiptoe around.
TransMe isn’t huge, and honestly, that’s why it works. People are respectful. The mods actually ban the creeps. It genuinely feels like a real community.
If you’re trans, nonbinary, or just tired of the usual garbage, give it a try. It finally feels safe out here.
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Pull out your credit card
This app will make you waste your time in setting up an account to make you pay to message anyone! You can’t see anyone close to you just the whole world on the other side of where you are and don’t worry you can’t see any likes, views or even fill out your profile with out the app restrictions of basic words you can’t use in the about me section. If you want to do anything in this app be prepared to pay for any use of this app you may as well pay to download the app as well because that’s what you’re going to do anyways.
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Honestly wasn’t expecting much
Look i’ve tried a bunch of dating stuff before and it was always the same — weird messages, people asking invasive questions right away, or guys who just wanted something secret. so i wasn't really excited about transme at first. but my friend kept telling me to just make a profile so i did.
put up a pic of me at a concert, wrote something dumb about loving iced coffee and my cat. and idk something about this app feels different. people actually read your bio. first guy who messaged me asked what show i was at in my photo. that’s it. no weird stuff. we talked for like a week before meeting up.
when we finally hung out he brought me an iced coffee. didn't ask a single weird question. just wanted to know about my cat's name. we've been seeing each other for a couple months now and he's never once made me feel like i have to explain myself.
transme isn't perfect but it's the only place i've felt like just a normal person dating. if you're trans or nonbinary or just tired of the usual nonsense, give it a shot.
put up a pic of me at a concert, wrote something dumb about loving iced coffee and my cat. and idk something about this app feels different. people actually read your bio. first guy who messaged me asked what show i was at in my photo. that’s it. no weird stuff. we talked for like a week before meeting up.
when we finally hung out he brought me an iced coffee. didn't ask a single weird question. just wanted to know about my cat's name. we've been seeing each other for a couple months now and he's never once made me feel like i have to explain myself.
transme isn't perfect but it's the only place i've felt like just a normal person dating. if you're trans or nonbinary or just tired of the usual nonsense, give it a shot.
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Terrible
Fake accounts and can’t contact anyone unless you sign up to pay monthly.
My ex told me I wasn’t a real man. Then I found TransMe
My ex cheated on me and actually said it was because I “wasn’t a real man.” Those exact words. That messed me up for months. I started thinking every guy I’d ever date would secretly feel the same way and just not say it. Or worse, they'd pretend to be okay with who I am and then go find someone else. That thought just ate at me. So I stopped trying. Deleted everything. Didn't even want to talk to anyone.
Then one night I was feeling really lonely — like 2am scrolling kind of lonely — and I saw someone mention Transme online. They said it was one of the only places where chasers actually get banned. I was like fine, whatever, I'll just look. I didn't upload a face pic at first. Just a blank profile. No bio, nothing. I was literally just going to see what was out there without actually participating.
But after a couple days I thought okay fine I'll write something short. I wrote “into punk shows and bad coffee.” That's it. I didn't even say I'm trans because I was scared of the usual weird messages. And I swear — within like a day, this guy messages me. Not just a “hey” or “what's up.” He asks me “what's the worst coffee you've ever had.” Such a silly question but it made me laugh. Then he asked about a band I mentioned. No weird questions about my body. No invasive stuff. He just talked to me like a normal person.
That literally never happened before. On other places I either got ignored, fetishized, or someone would match just to argue about trans people existing. It was exhausting. Transme just feels different. I don't know how to explain it. People actually read your profile. And when someone acts weird — like one guy asked if I “still have female parts” — I reported him and he was gone within an hour. The moderators actually do something.
Anyway I've been seeing that coffee guy for three months now. He makes me feel like… just a guy. A normal one. He never makes it weird. He introduces me to his friends without hesitation. My cheating ex who said I wasn't a real man? Honestly I don't even think about him anymore
Then one night I was feeling really lonely — like 2am scrolling kind of lonely — and I saw someone mention Transme online. They said it was one of the only places where chasers actually get banned. I was like fine, whatever, I'll just look. I didn't upload a face pic at first. Just a blank profile. No bio, nothing. I was literally just going to see what was out there without actually participating.
But after a couple days I thought okay fine I'll write something short. I wrote “into punk shows and bad coffee.” That's it. I didn't even say I'm trans because I was scared of the usual weird messages. And I swear — within like a day, this guy messages me. Not just a “hey” or “what's up.” He asks me “what's the worst coffee you've ever had.” Such a silly question but it made me laugh. Then he asked about a band I mentioned. No weird questions about my body. No invasive stuff. He just talked to me like a normal person.
That literally never happened before. On other places I either got ignored, fetishized, or someone would match just to argue about trans people existing. It was exhausting. Transme just feels different. I don't know how to explain it. People actually read your profile. And when someone acts weird — like one guy asked if I “still have female parts” — I reported him and he was gone within an hour. The moderators actually do something.
Anyway I've been seeing that coffee guy for three months now. He makes me feel like… just a guy. A normal one. He never makes it weird. He introduces me to his friends without hesitation. My cheating ex who said I wasn't a real man? Honestly I don't even think about him anymore
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