Comparison

Spread vs First Date

Price, ratings, monetisation and update history for both apps, side by side — with what reviewers say about each.

Head to head
About

Spread

This app helps you navigate modern dating by providing a structured way to track potential partners. Define your compatibility criteria, log interactions, and identify patterns to make more informed decisions about your relationships.

Highlights
  • Define compatibility criteria (must-haves, dealbreakers)
  • Track traits and calculate compatibility percentage
  • Log and analyze green, beige, and red flags
  • Organize dating life with notes and details
  • Access curated relationship videos
  • Private by design, data stays on device
Features
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Spread – The Intentional Dating Companion Modern dating can feel chaotic. Endless swipes. Mixed signals. Potential that never quite potentials. It is easy to lose sight of what you actually want. Spread helps you date with clarity. Spread is not a dating app. It is your private dating companion. A structured, thoughtful tool that helps you reflect, notice patterns, and stay aligned with your standards. Think of it as the world’s first dating spreadsheet, journal, roster, and compatibility companion built for intentional dating. ~ Compatibility ~ Dating is not just about who someone is. It is about whether they are right for you. With Spread, you define your own: • Must haves • Dealbreakers • Nice to haves As you get to know someone, you can track which traits they meet and see a personalized compatibility percentage based on the values you entered. This is not about rating a human being. It is about understanding alignment. There is a difference between saying, “This person is an 82 out of 100,” and saying, “Based on what I said I need in a partner, this person meets 82 percent of that.” That distinction matters. ~ Connection ~ Flags contribute to your Connection score. Connection reflects how interactions build closeness over time. Connection communicates: • Emotional safety • Mutual respect • Ease • Feeling seen and understood • Trust forming through behavior Green flags represent behaviors that open the door emotionally and socially. Beige flags represent neutral information without emotional charge. Red flags represent behaviors that create friction, tension, or emotional shutdown. Connection is behavior based, not fantasy based. It is about what someone consistently does, not how intense the chemistry feels in week two. Spread moves you from asking, “Is this a good person?” to asking the better question, “Is this a good person for me?” ~ Why You’ll Love Spread ~ • Organize your dating life Log names, details, and notes to keep track of your matches, past or present. • See connection clearly View how green, beige, and red flags collectively shape the connection over time. • Stay aligned with your values Compare your defined traits with lived experience. • Learn as you date Access curated relationship videos on communication, attachment styles, and dating psychology. • Private by design Everything you log stays on your device. ~ Why Spread Exists ~ Dating today often feels like too many options and not enough clarity. Spread gives you structure in the chaos. A space to reflect, think critically, and avoid dating burnout. It is built on psychological principles like cognitive offloading and visual organization so you can see patterns your emotions might overlook. Intentional dating is not about judging someone’s worth. It is about protecting your future. Modern dating is complicated. Your decisions do not have to be. Download Spread and date with intention. App logo by Alison Marie Rose Design www.alisonmarierose.com

About

First Date

This private journal helps you navigate your dating life by providing pre-date questions, safety check-ins, and guided post-date reflections. Track your dating history, identify patterns, and enhance your safety with offline features. It's designed to be used alongside existing dating apps or for real-life encounters.

Highlights
  • Pre-date conversation questions
  • Safety check-ins and fake calls
  • Guided post-date reflection prompts
  • Voice memos with on-device transcripts
  • Dating pattern analysis
  • Offline date-safety guide
  • Face ID lock
Features
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First Date is a private journal for your dating life - not a dating app. Use it alongside the dating apps you already have, or for people you meet in real life. Keep track of who you're talking to, walk into each date with a few good questions, get home safely, and write down how it really went while it's fresh. BEFORE THE DATE - Three questions for tonight, chosen for what you're looking for (casual, long-term, marriage or just exploring) and for the interests you share. Shuffle for another set. - Write a one-line intention ("stay curious, home by ten"). Your reflection asks how it went. - Plan the venue with Apple Maps details and walking-time context. - Conversation prompts in five tones: playful, curious, direct, vulnerable and witty. DURING THE DATE - Safety check-ins: reminders ask if you're home safe. If you don't confirm, a second reminder opens a ready-to-send text to a contact you chose, with the venue. You press send. - A fake incoming call when you need an easy way out, with the caller name you pick. - An offline date-safety guide that works with no signal. AFTER THE DATE - Guided reflection: questions that get past "it was fine", a star rating, how you felt on the way home, and whether you'd see them again. - What felt good and what gave you pause, as tags. - Voice memos with on-device transcripts. - A heads-up when someone has gone quiet, on a threshold you choose. PATTERNS - Quick stats across your own history: dates per person, how long you talk before meeting, how often you leave feeling like yourself. - With Pro: filters by app, venue, pacing, chemistry, follow-up and how you left; month-by-month trends; and written patterns once 10 people are logged. PRIVATE BY DESIGN Everything you save stays in the app on your iPhone or iPad. There is no account, no server and no sync, so your journal never leaves your device. Voice memos are transcribed on the device. Venue search uses Apple Maps. No analytics or ad SDKs. Add a Face ID lock whenever you like. FIRST DATE PRO - ONE PAYMENT, NO SUBSCRIPTION The journal holds your first 5 people. First Date Pro is a single Lifetime purchase: it lifts that limit and adds deeper filters, month-by-month trends and written patterns. It never renews. Safety check-ins, the fake call, voice memos with transcripts, guided reflection, date-night questions, the Face ID lock, screenshot import and conversation prompts stay in the free journal. NOT A DATING APP First Date does not match you with anyone, host a profile, show a feed or message anyone for you. ABOUT SAFETY Check-ins remind you and pre-fill a message that you send yourself. First Date does not contact emergency services, does not share your live location and is not a monitoring service. If you are in danger, call your local emergency number. Privacy Policy: https://firstdate.keenshift.ai/privacy Terms of Use (EULA): https://firstdate.keenshift.ai/terms Support: https://firstdate.keenshift.ai/support

Screenshots

Spread4 screens
First Date4 screens

Verdict

The call

The clearest difference is in-app purchases: Spread at none against First Date's 1. Spread also leads on ratings volume (3 vs 1). First Date's advantage is update cadence (every 2 weeks vs every 4 months) and rating (5.0 vs 4.7). On price, ads, device support and iOS requirement there is nothing between them.

Scored on Price · Rating · Positive reviews · Number of ratings · Update frequency · Ads · In-app purchases · Monetization · Best chart rank · Devices · Requires iOS

CostPrice · In-app purchases · Ads · Monetization

Both are free to download. First Date sells 1 one-off in-app purchase. Spread asks for nothing beyond the download.

ReceptionRating · Positive reviews · Number of ratings

First Date holds the better App Store score, 5.0 against 4.7. Both are backed by a comparable volume of ratings — 3 and 1 respectively.

UpkeepUpdate frequency

Spread ships an update every 4 months, First Date every 2 weeks. The most recent releases landed on October 30, 2026 and October 31, 2026 respectively.

Scorecard5 real differences · 5 level
Spread versus First Date: the parameters behind the verdict, then further details
ParameterSpreadFirst Date
PriceFreeFree
Rating4.7 (3 ratings)5.0 (1 ratings) — better
Positive reviews100.0% of reviews—
Number of ratings3 — better1
Update frequencyEvery 4 monthsEvery 2 weeks — better
AdsNoNo
In-app purchasesNo — betterYes
MonetizationFree — betterFree with in-app purchases
DevicesiPhone, iPadiPhone, iPad
Requires iOS18.118.0 — better
Further details — not scored
Size2 MB5 MB
Age rating12+12+
DeveloperSampson EziemeMitaanshu Agarwal

In-app purchases

None

Spread

No in-app purchases

1 purchases

First Date

One-time1
  • First Date Pro Lifetime$79.99

Questions

Is Spread free?
Spread is free to download, with no in-app purchases.
Is First Date free?
First Date is free to download, with in-app purchases available.
Which has better reviews, Spread or First Date?
First Date is rated higher. Spread averages 4.7 out of 5 from 3 ratings, while First Date averages 5.0 from 1 ratings.
Do Spread or First Date have ads?
Neither Spread nor First Date shows ads.
Which is updated more often, Spread or First Date?
Spread ships an update every 4 months, and First Date every 2 weeks. Most recently, Spread was updated on October 30, 2026 and First Date on October 31, 2026.

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