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Not as good as it was..
This app is pretty good but I can’t help but feel like it was better before they updated it. It’s probably fine for girls but as a guy, it’s frustrating knowing that - unlike before where where all messages would automatically go straight to a person’s inbox - people probably won’t even know you’ve messaged them unless they come across your profile while actively searching for matches. Obviously, the previous set-up led to girls getting more messages than they could handle but at least they knew who had messaged and could go from there. I think a happy medium would be to limit each user to one ‘introductory’ message so that girls don’t get bombarded with multiple messages from guys they’re not keen on and guys still get to know their message will be seen.Show lessHughGrrant
Pretty good
For a free dating site OKC is impressive, in that you can communicate with people without paying any fee. You just have to send them actual messages rather than just likes. There’s a fair number of people active on there and the profiles are often thought through and amusing/helpful/decisive, and more frank and interesting than on Match. The questions are fun and actually helpful in discriminating who you would and wouldn’t fit with. The system has a few idiosyncrasies that can be irksome (eg you can’t say ‘maybe’, and if you swipe left you’ll not see them again or receive their message if they send one), but on the whole I’d definitely recommend it. I’m a straight woman and have previously been a paid up member on Guardian Soulmates and Match.Show lessFutonesque
Still a good site but has definitely changed for the worse
I have been using OKC for a number of years and have met many fine people through it. I’ve paid for A-list for several six-month stints and liked the features it used to have. Unfortunately, the last few rounds of “upgrades” have made the whole thing a worse experience. My biggest gripe is that in order to respond to a message from someone, you have to “like” them first. Well, I am a person who is selective in “likes,” but who also wants to be polite and at least respond to those who write to me, if only to tell them “thanks, but I don’t see us as a match.” Now, to respond to those people, I am forced to be either (a) a liar if I do “like” them, or (b) a jerk who just ignores them. This does not improve civility or truthfulness, two qualities which are in short supply in online dating to begin with.
That said, I do like the matching algorithm (it definitely seems to work) and the many opportunities to ask questions to understand others’ world view. Some of those questions can be pretty ridiculous or intrusive, but some of them are really helpful in understanding people.Show lesstravelmad478
My favourite singles ap
I've just returned after a few years and think it's now probably one of the best! The recent update has, in my opinion, completely transformed the usage, eliminating the unwanted contact from people who do not interest you. Thank you!! I still haven't found Mr Right, yet, but think the matching systems seem pretty accurate, as long as you've been honest. That said, there do seem to be some false profiles, but then surely they're everywhere! Incidentally, I haven't paid anything, so not sure why there are so many comments regarding this. I have paid on other sites for membership, with absolutely no return -or interesting people or matches- so you should try this! Finally, whilst I haven't found my soulmate, I have met and made some good friends here.Show lessShrynkabelle
Used To Be Good, Now Just Superficial
OkCupid used to be unique from Tinder and Bumble in that it wasn't based solely on looks to determine initial matches. People had the ability to message one another and form a match based on common interests. Now they won't even let your message go through to someone until they've liked you in their Tinder rip-off, swipe-to-like section. And the only other way to see people who have messaged you is through a premium membership. So a girl I'm interested in either has to be superficial enough to judge me based on a photo or has to pay for a premium membership to read my message. Why don't you just create an "Other Messages" section with messages from people the person hasn't liked back yet so they can at least have the option of reading all the messages they receive instead of having to find the people that messaged them somewhere else in the app? You guys have successfully managed to put messages in every section, but messages. Well done. They'll say their match percentage has gone up, but that's because the number of potential matches has gone down, not because they've actually succeeded in filtering out junk messages. This is now just a more confusing and convoluted version on Bumble. They've opted to remove the only thing that made them unique. Don't bother downloading. Just pick another dating app.Show less>JD
Developer Response
We know this is a drastic change and thank you for taking the time to express your concerns. We hope in the long run it will improve OkCupid messaging. In fact, requiring likes before messages and responses has reduced abusive messages by 70%. We will still be monitoring how this is used and taking feedback!Why fix if not broken
Forcing people to use their name instead of a moniker... real coolrealnatedawg
No more visitors
Many changes made to OkCupid in the past few months, most of which have been for the worse. Not being able to see visitors is the change which will probably see me leave OkCupid for goodnolongerokcupid
Nope
Forcing us to use our real names? That's super unsafe and promotes stalking and assault. Bye.Sarah.a.morrison
Ownership has lost it
This platform is being gradually destroyed by OkCupid and their recent sweeping changes to how messaging works and enforcement of a real names policy, a terrible move for privacy. Soon to be just another Tinder app.interpred
Dumb!
Why on earth would I want anyone to know ow my first name? Dumb idea! Won’t sign in until this is back to normal. Stop trying to be Eharmony lol
Otherwise the site was great!Djshwhysahenekddje
