Thank you Lucia!
The Silenzio app is providing so much comfort in my no contact pledge… I’m 83 days in, after DA discard. I love how when I downloaded the app, one of the first features I noticed was a day-count that you can personalize for how long you’ve been in no contact - genius..! :) Valentines Day this year, he gave me a card that he put zero effort into - a contrast from last VDay and my birthday… we had been together going on 2 years. The discard happened weeks before my bday. After receiving the underwhelming VDay card, I asked him… ‘were you in a hurry when you wrote this?’ He said that he wasn’t, but that he could take the card back and work on it. He never did and I never saw the card again, so I began to feel less invested in the relationship and wasn’t shy about showing it… no enthusiastic and enduring texts with heart emojis anymore.😆 I wasn’t sure what to do, but I was willing to wait it out to see what he did on my bday. Of course, as I mentioned, he discarded me before my bday, saying ‘the relationship spark was gone!’ Well, I didn’t buy it for one bit, and calmly exited stage left. I haven’t broken my NC pledge, and vow not to, ever! After all these weeks, there was finally a sign from him - he liked a social media post of mine last week. I’m so glad Lucia spoke about what to do in this situation on one of her videos recently, bc, another ‘expert’ on YouTube mentioned to ‘match’ the DA”s effort - which I knew was the wrong thing to do in this situation. Anyway, I’m doubling down on no contact until I directly hear from him, re: what is going to be different this time. If he doesn’t reach out thought, I know I’m going to be ok, especially with the help of Lucia and her Silenzio app! Lucia- if you can talk about what to do to keep a DA accountable without triggering them, ie, what I could have done re: the lack of follow through on his revision of the underwhelming VDay card, that would really be helpful. I don’t know if I’m going to need it, bc maybe I’ll never hear from him again, and I definitely don’t plan on falling for another DA, but I think it’s a great topic, and I’d love to hear your advice on it! Much love!!
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SSweeetPea:)
Great App
This app is comprehensive and offers all the tools you need to stay in No Comtact. The affirmations, meditations and community helps you not feel alone. Thank you!
SSebastijonas
Helps my heart heal
I’ve been having a tough time staying in no contact and find myself giving in with my dismissive avoidant constantly… and then regretting it. This app holds me accountable and I’m in no contact the longest I’ve ever been.
AAbi8563718
Empowering
I’ve followed Lucia for a month on YouTube and I wish I knew of her sooner because I was doing all the wrong things before and had so many opportunities to have the relationship I want. Regardless, I have been able to take back my power by watching her videos and see the value in myself again. Since my ex still contacts me, I have been using the Silenzio app and it has been very helpful on this journey.
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DWDabi W
Very Helpful
Helps you contain anxiety when there is a breakup.
JJumpytwo
