A powerful resource that changed everything!
This app changed my entire co-parenting experience in a positive way at the perfect time. We are high conflict and had bad communication cycles. My ex refused to get on an app and I needed something to change to break our cycle. I found this app and it changed everything. It stopped me from communicating emotionally and it helped me interpret his communication in a way I had never before picked up on. It gave me confidence to identify his communication as abusive and unacceptable, and helped ensure I didn’t continue to repeat or contribute to the cycle. I highly recommend trying this app - it was transformative in my co-parenting, high conflict dynamic!
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Wow! This app saved my peace of mind
The coaching feature on BestInterest is such a godsend. The way they not only give you recommended edits, but actually coaches you up on how to respond, interpreting your coparent’s responses, and the why behind the recommendations. It’s not just using AI to write a response, but actually working with a coach who sees your struggles and holds you accountable. This should be recommended in every court as it actually delivers what other coparenting apps claim they can provide. BestInterest facilitates both healthier and more proactive coparenting. Kudos guys.. go take down OFW!!
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Buggy, poor desktop support
Often difficult to navigate, the MacOS app is pretty much useless, bugger, and unusable. The iOS is fine, I suppose, but difficult to read the actual messages your coparent sends you. Its summaries are often poor or outright misrepresentative of the content written. The $15/mo price is outrageous and is cashing in on parents who are already in a difficult and financially stressful situation, which doesn’t help.
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Perfect for high conflict
I’ve been using this app for a little bit and I’m so much happier and relaxed with tone guard. The app makes sure that my ex can’t be verbally abusive or manipulative, and I have even noticed it’s scared him into not starting needless conflict, knowing it’s monitored.. I can have him blocked on everything now and I’m so glad I don’t have to worry about the manipulation anymore.
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A powerful resource that changed everything!
This app changed my entire co-parenting experience in a positive way at the perfect time. We are high conflict and had bad communication cycles. My ex refused to get on an app and I needed something to change to break our cycle. I found this app and it changed everything. It stopped me from communicating emotionally and it helped me interpret his communication in a way I had never before picked up on. It gave me confidence to identify his communication as abusive and unacceptable, and helped ensure I didn’t continue to repeat or contribute to the cycle. I highly recommend trying this app - it was transformative in my co-parenting, high conflict dynamic!
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Helps so much with word soup
I love this app. I used to get pages or word soup with accusations, assumptions, hooks, and straight up verbal abuse. The app filters all that out which is amazing. And then suggests responses or better yet, sometimes recommends no response! It has cleared up so much mental space that used to be allocated to trying to navigate this communication maze with my ex. Thank you!!
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Grateful
I am so grateful for this app. I have tears in my eyes as I write this. You guys who built this and the people who work for you are doing something really good for the world. Seriously. Be proud. You are protecting people from being abused. I have had this for a week and received a 153 hateful messages and I didn’t have to read one of them. Thank you.
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Saves my Peace
This app is truly a lifesaver-my coparent refuses to agree to use a coparenting app, but I can use this one on my own.
It will flag aggressive messages and just give me the basics without all the emotional manipulation. Then I can go back later when I’m ready to see the original message. Also, it helps to have an app I can use for journaling that makes it easy to print out entries for court use. Highly recommend!
It will flag aggressive messages and just give me the basics without all the emotional manipulation. Then I can go back later when I’m ready to see the original message. Also, it helps to have an app I can use for journaling that makes it easy to print out entries for court use. Highly recommend!
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Coparenting code doesn’t work
The code does not work and the coparent has not been able to join
Saved my sanity
This app truly gave me back my peace. Having them give me a summary and flag the message when the other parent is being verbally abuse helps me prepare myself to read his messages. Then it helping me craft messages back so that I’m the adult in the room is truly a lifesaver. Highly recommend for anyone who has a high conflict coparenting dynamic.
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baby momma drama
thank you. get this app if you’re a single dad.
Perfect and then some
This app has just what I need to:
1) communicate in a high conflict level 2 coparenting relationship. The app moderates messages I receive and delivers them to me as third-party, taking the sting out of old, dysfunctional communication patterns.
2) It offers coaching for each reply I give based upon a variety of coparenting relationship types.
3) the journal has made such a difference in how consistently I journal. I can even add pictures.
Technical support is responsive and caring.
The podcast is an outstanding as well; always a very worthwhile listen.
The mission of BestInterest is an enormous uplift to what has otherwise been an incredibly challenging, turbulent set of circumstances for me. Sol, if you’re reading this, keep up the amazing work!
1) communicate in a high conflict level 2 coparenting relationship. The app moderates messages I receive and delivers them to me as third-party, taking the sting out of old, dysfunctional communication patterns.
2) It offers coaching for each reply I give based upon a variety of coparenting relationship types.
3) the journal has made such a difference in how consistently I journal. I can even add pictures.
Technical support is responsive and caring.
The podcast is an outstanding as well; always a very worthwhile listen.
The mission of BestInterest is an enormous uplift to what has otherwise been an incredibly challenging, turbulent set of circumstances for me. Sol, if you’re reading this, keep up the amazing work!
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A MUST HAVE for Empaths that must communicate with a Narcissist!!!!
This app has helped me immensely with communicating with someone in my life that has abused me sexually, financially and mentally for many years. Someone I have no choice but to communicate with. The all fingers their messages to keep me from becoming triggered and it also rewrites my messages to make them less-emotional and less-satisfying for the Narc. It speaks in the grey-rock method that Dr. Ramani teaches so much about. This is a life send because the manipulation and abuse was mentally overwhelming for me before I used this app. I used a discerner app that is very popular and I was constantly abused and harassed on there. G-d bless you to the people who created this! You truly are saving lives by helping people heal and lower cortisol levels which bring many ailments.
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Life Changer!
This app really has changed my life. It was so frustrating that after separating from my husband, I was still vulnerable to his abusive text rants. I tried to not read them, but they were there in front of my face in the text chain where we needed to communicate about our kids.
Now BestInterest shields me from those rants. I can still see the original messages if I drill down into them (if I really want to), but first it tells me what he is doing and gives me advice (“This message is a passive aggressive attempt to bait you into a fight. We recommend no response.”). This advice has been amazing validation for me, and is a great real-time reminder of what therapists and self-help books tell me to do.
I love that this is the only app that you can use in “solo mode”, because it is impossible to get an abusive ex to agree to use something that will coach them to stop abusing you (although I am still hoping he will see the benefit of that one day).
I would give it 5 stars, but there are a few things that make it frustrating to use:
1) Message Notifications - These are extremely inconsistent. That leads to me having to frequently check the app for messages from him. The “number bubble” on the app showing unread messages has never worked, and new message notifications pop up on my Apple Watch/ lock screen about half the time.
2) Message Delivery - This seems to have gotten worse with the last release. There are times where I DO get a message notification, but then I have to restart the app for the new message to even show up.
3) Over Filtering - 90% of his messages are not abusive. However the app always does some form of filtering/rewriting of his messages. This often changes the meaning or details slightly, so I need to always drill down to read the original message. Fortunately his abusive messages have a pattern (10-20 messages in a row, not waiting for a response). So I know which messages are safe to drill down on. But that is an extra step, and makes it hard to keep track of conversations. It would be great if there was a “sensitivity level” that could be set on the filtering, so that it did no filtering on harmless messages. Or maybe if I consistently used the feedback function on each message, it would train the model?
These frustrations are still outweighed by the benefits of this app.
Now BestInterest shields me from those rants. I can still see the original messages if I drill down into them (if I really want to), but first it tells me what he is doing and gives me advice (“This message is a passive aggressive attempt to bait you into a fight. We recommend no response.”). This advice has been amazing validation for me, and is a great real-time reminder of what therapists and self-help books tell me to do.
I love that this is the only app that you can use in “solo mode”, because it is impossible to get an abusive ex to agree to use something that will coach them to stop abusing you (although I am still hoping he will see the benefit of that one day).
I would give it 5 stars, but there are a few things that make it frustrating to use:
1) Message Notifications - These are extremely inconsistent. That leads to me having to frequently check the app for messages from him. The “number bubble” on the app showing unread messages has never worked, and new message notifications pop up on my Apple Watch/ lock screen about half the time.
2) Message Delivery - This seems to have gotten worse with the last release. There are times where I DO get a message notification, but then I have to restart the app for the new message to even show up.
3) Over Filtering - 90% of his messages are not abusive. However the app always does some form of filtering/rewriting of his messages. This often changes the meaning or details slightly, so I need to always drill down to read the original message. Fortunately his abusive messages have a pattern (10-20 messages in a row, not waiting for a response). So I know which messages are safe to drill down on. But that is an extra step, and makes it hard to keep track of conversations. It would be great if there was a “sensitivity level” that could be set on the filtering, so that it did no filtering on harmless messages. Or maybe if I consistently used the feedback function on each message, it would train the model?
These frustrations are still outweighed by the benefits of this app.
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Heartbroken
This app does not offer a shared calendar. Despite a desperate need for this app, our judge just ordered us to go back to app close because they do not offer a shared calendar within this app.
Saving my mental health
I’m in a very antagonistic parallel parenting relationship. This app is saving my mental and physical health.
Great tool for communication for co-parenting and parallel parenting
I would love to give it 5stars however I notice after troubleshooting and ensuring all my notifications are turned on, I still have difficulty getting notification alerts on my phone which leads me to constantly check the app to ensure I do not miss any messages from the other parent which is an additional task I need to do :(
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Response from developer
Thanks for the positive review! We completely understand the frustration about notifications: having to constantly check the app adds the very stress we are trying to remove. Our goal is to help you relax and find peace, not worry about missing important messages. While push notifications can sometimes be affected by phone settings or missed in the noise, we have recently added support for Email Notifications. This might be the perfect solution for you. You can enable this directly in your Notification Settings in the app. Just like push notifications, you can set it to only notify you every day or every week, while Message Shield works to automatically detect urgent or emergency messages and send them through to you immediately if needed. We hope this allows you to put the phone down with confidence, knowing you'll be alerted when it matters most!
Coparenting app thru Ai
While I think this app is helpful for high conflict coparenting; one major issue is that when messages are moderated and new language is given, often it completely changes the context of the response. I completely understand and agree with the program wanting to eliminate emotionally charged words that could bring about conflict. However, the program will sanitize language so much that it reverses the actual context and meaning of the words. Super frustrating as there is no way around it other than choosing to not communicate the message.
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Response from developer
Thank you for this honest and constructive review. We are glad the app is helping with the high-conflict aspects of co-parenting, but we completely agree with you: the goal is to remove the "heat," not the point of the message you're trying to send. A key tip that helps the AI get smarter: Please vote down messages that don't work for you. Your votes directly impact the way your agent responds, helping it learn from your specific style and coparenting arrangement. We are also always improving our global models—we actually pushed a major refresh just last week to help with context. AI makes mistakes, and just like a human, we're not always going to get it right every time. However, please remember that you can always view the original message if the translation misses the mark. Thank you for sticking with us as we improve!
Gives you so much validation and resources!
It’s been such a great help for me in crafting responses and the resources are so useful!
Coparenting app thru Ai
While I think this app is helpful for high conflict coparenting; one major issue is that Winn messages are moderated and new language is given, sometimes it completely changes the context of the response. I completely understand and agree with the program wanting to eliminate emotionally charged words that could bring about conflict.. However, more than a few times the meaning of my message or response was changed.
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